Monday, January 26, 2009

Spin the Other Way!


After my last post I twittered "uh-oh I feel the downward spiral beginning..." to which, a good friend of mine twittered back and said, "Spin the other way friend...i love you." Little did she know what an effect that would have on me. First, it made me laugh, and we all know that laughter through tears is the best. But then God began to speak to my heart with that simple phrase...spin the other way.

I truly was spiraling downward. It started last week and was getting worse by the minute. If I could paint a picture of what was happening, it would be something similar to a corkscrew twisting down into the cork...only I was on the end of the corkscrew being pushed further and further down into the dark. This morning wasn't much better as I struggled with car trouble, which snowballs into financial issues, blah, blah, blah...and soon I was right back to the point of spiraling further downward. Then God echoed, "Spin the other way sweetie" ('cuz that's what God calls me), and I made the decision NOT to go back to the hole I'd been in for the last several days (which in this case is literally in my bed with my covers over my head). I called my friend Jan and asked if I could come over for lunch (she just happened to have today off). That simple act helped me to spin the other way and begin to twist my way out of the cold dark cork.

I don't know if any of this makes sense to anyone else, but really the point I wanted to get to was that after telling me to "spin the other way", my friend thought maybe it wasn't the "right" thing to say. In fact, I think she even said it was a stupid thing to say. Hah! Little did she know that it would be the ONE thing that has started to pull me back into the Light. So, when someone you know is hurting, and you don't know what to say to them, just tell them what comes to mind. God will always use what you have to give to bless the ones you to whom you are giving. "Spin the Other Way" is now a permanent part of my healing vocabulary.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Rethinking the Whole Getting Connected Thing

So, for the last several weeks I've been prattling on and on about how great it is to finally be getting connected in my church. Well, now I'm at the part of me when I crash and burn and honestly this morning didn't feel so good. It was embarrassing. I'm not used to having people who don't know me see me in this state. I'm used to either skipping church altogether, or at least hiding in the shadows and being able to run out without having to talk to anyone. I hate crying in public, but this morning it went beyond just that. I thought I'd be able to hold it together long enough to make it through the choir singing on stage...and I did fairly well. I avoided as much contact as possible because I knew if someone hugged me or had too much eye contact with me, the flood gate would open. But then came the last song..."I called, You answered and You came to my resucue and I want to be where You are." Anyone who knows me knows that THAT is truly the very deepest desire of my heart...to be with Jesus and gone from this wretched mind. It was all I could do to continue standing up there. I felt my face contorting trying to hold back the flood that was knocking...no pounding to get out. I nearly ran from the church, tears streaming before I even made it to my car. Then it all washed over me. I don't understand why God made me this way, and I probably never will. But it's embarrassing and humiliating and now I know that being connected makes it worse because now the people who observe me know me and I will have to try to expalin things to them. It's a terrible predicament to be in. I wanted someone to understand, to hug me and just say it will pass...it's not forever...but that would require vulnerability on my part. It would have been much easier to be able to hide behind my tears and leave unnoticed, or to not have gone at all. This is a dark side of me that I am not fond of...

Monday, January 19, 2009

Things I Learned From Being a Rent-a-Mom






















  1. The grass is NOT always greener on the other side.
  2. Children say the darnedest things.
  3. A toddler crying when they realize you are out of their sight will melt your heart.
  4. Daddies are meant for adventure, Mommies are meant to worry about what will happen as result of those adventures.
  5. “Daddy only activities” make me nervous.
  6. Mommies have every right to say “I told you so.
  7. Tag-teaming is way easier than going it alone.
  8. Children don’t sleep in, no matter how little sleep the mama gets.
  9. The distance between causing a child to say “this is the worst time in my life” to “you’re the best Auntie April I’ve ever had” is not very far.
  10. Becoming the parent of a 4 year old and an 18 month old was not intended to happen overnight.
  11. Routine is a good thing.
  12. Macaroni and cheese is a lifesaver.
  13. A Dad who cooks is an amazing thing.
  14. Sippy cups are a great invention and anyone with little kids should have at least 10 per child.
  15. Sleep is NOT over-rated.
  16. Phinneas and Ferb is funny…even the 4th time around.
  17. A DVR is a blessed thing.
  18. Teaching a toddler where the recycling bin is saves you a lot of trips to the kitchen and gives them a great sense of pride.
  19. Little girls cannot run without squealing.
  20. Hat day is cute and fun.
  21. The living room floor will never be toy free…why even try?
  22. Refrigerator magnets will not stay on the refrigerator when there is a toddler around.
  23. Having a phobia about baby slobber doesn’t last long when you’re responsible for a toddler 24 hours a day.
  24. There is a time/space continuum issue when trying to entertain children for very long periods of time.
  25. I'm perfectly happy being an Auntie and not a Mommy.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

25 Random Things About Me

Ok, so I stole this idea from Patsy Clairmont, but I thought it was a fun blog. I'd love to have you respond with your own list, or maybe something you can relate to in mine.

1. My favorite color is purple.
2. The entire right side of my body is noticeably larger than the left side.
3. I don't have cable or Internet access at my home. (Sometimes I can access wifi from neighbors though...shhh)
4. I love the smell of skunk.
5. I have a "thing" about hand injuries...mine or anyone else's.
6. I've taught myself how to marginally play the piano, guitar and coronet.
7. I played the clarinet in jr. high.
8. I love to scrapbook.
9. I once returned videos to a rental store in a bag which also contained my bra. Yes, they gave it back to me because they discovered it while I was still in the store...
10. My favorite adult beverage is Malibu Rum and pineapple juice.
11. Cheese is my favorite food.
12. I actually have 4 sisters. My oldest sister, Nancy died at birth.
13. I was born with jet black hair that turned to toe-head blonde and is now getting darker by the minute.
14. I never learned to ride a bike.
15. I once walked into work with a white pair of undies stuck to the velcro on my cargo pocket.
16. I used to sing so loud in the shower that my mother would tell me to be quiet because she couldn't hear the tv in the living room. (I liked the acoustics...)
17. My favorite vegetable is green beans because they squeak on my teeth.
18. I own over 500 dvds.
19. I once did a stand-up comic routine for a talent show.
20. I was on Ramblin Rod when I was in grade-school. If you don't know what that is, you didn't live in Portland in the 70's.
21. I have a weird artistic talent for drawing that literally comes and goes. Sometimes I can draw anything and sometimes I can't draw anything.
22. I have two tattoos.
23. My ears don't curl down at the top like most people's, they are flat. I like my ears.
24. I love scary movies.
25. I once burned Top Ramen.

Last week I gave away a starbuck's card in a drawing for those who responded. How about if this time I do a drawing for a framed copy of one of my lighthouse drawings? Comments must be here at blogspot (NOT on facebook), and must be received by 9:00 p.m. Wednesday, January 21. Happy commenting!

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Divine Calling and other stuff



My heart feels really heavy today. I don't know what my problem is. I started tearing up in church this morning and now feel like there's a flood waiting just behind a straining dam. Maybe I'm PMSing (my apologies to my male readers...). Maybe I'm convicted. Maybe I'm just confused.

This morning's message was really great. It was taken out of Genesis 12:1-3. The main point was that our divine calling as Christians is to be a blessing to the world. Pastor Ron talked about how when he was young he quickly discovered what he was "born to do" - connect people to Jesus. His wife discovered she was born to have a ministry to orphans. He asked the question, "What are you passionate about?" Phew. What AM I passionate about?

Well, I am passionate about people. But honestly, I don't really feel like I'm very successful at being a blessing to people. I try. But alas and alack, I feel like I just mess things up all the time.

Then there's the whole, what was I born to do thing. I'm almost 45 now and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I want to do something that makes a difference. I want to do something that impacts people's lives. I've always really wanted to be a therapist, but is that just because I'm such a basket case myself? Am I too old to pursue that dream now? I tried going back to school a few years ago. I did fairly well until I got the science and math requirements...then I failed pretty miserably and found myself stuck mentally.

So, here I am, contemplating what I'm passionate about, what I want to do with my life, how am I doing at fulfilling my divine calling and where do I go from here...

Does anyone else grapple with this or is it just me? What is your passion in life? When did you realize what you were born to do...or have you yet? What are your ideas about how to fulfill our divine calling to be a blessing to the world?

To encourage some feedback, I'm going to offer a prize. (I got this idea from one of my favorite speakers, Patsy Clairmont...) Let's see, how about a $5.00 Starbucks gift card? I will put everyone who comments by 9:00 p.m. on Friday, January 16, 2009 into a drawing for the gift card (make sure you give me a way to contact you if you win). So comment away! I really want some feedback on this one...

(For the sake of my readers who are not on Facebook, in order to be entered into the drawing, the comments must be here on my blog (original post), not on the facebook notes.)

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Husband for Rent?

I wish I could rent a husband sometimes.

For many, many years I really wanted to be married (after uploading these pictures I took today I'm absolutely dumbfounded as to why some man didn't snap me up years ago...). At first I wanted the whole package...husband, kids, dog and mini van. As I aged beyond child-bearing years, I downsized that dream to just a husband, a dog and an SUV.
Now finally, I'm pretty settled with just the dog and the SUV, although sometimes it would still be nice to have a husband.

Like during the snow it would've been nice to have someone to go buy chains for my car and put them on. You know, someone to do the heavy lifting. But I have friends with husbands who help me out a lot (Charlie, you know who you are...).

But therein lies the rub...most of my friends, and women my age have husbands. That's a bigger reason I wish I had a husband at times. It would be so fun (and much easier frankly) to get together with people if I had a husband to hang out with my friends' husbands. Married people are just much less likely to invite a middle aged single gal over for dinner. So, for the purpose of furthering my social life, I wish I could rent a husband sometimes.

Monday, January 5, 2009

Christmas in January: Too Much Fun

"God Has Come Concert Canceled Due to Arctic Blast"


I was totally bummed. We'd worked long and hard on the music and now we wouldn't get to perform it. Luckily we have a tenacious choir director and she was determined that all of the time we spent preparing would not be in vain. (She's my hero by the way...) Jill was able to get the concert rescheduled for January 4, 2009. Sure, it was after Christmas, but then again, Christmas isn't the only day we can celebrate the birth of Christ!











So, we finally had our concert, and lots of people showed up. It was so much fun to be a part of. I even got to sing a solo! That was an amazing privilege...and a little scary at first. During our first "dress rehearsal" before the concert was canceled, I messed it up really bad. So, the cancellation gave me lots of extra practice time and I pulled it off last night...and wasn't even nervous. I haven't sang a solo since I belted out "Be Our Guest" on Saturday nights at CBCC, and that was in a much smaller venue. Haha. So it was a precious experience and one that I won't soon forget.

Oh, and did I mention that it started snowing again about an hour before the concert? Yeah, usually I'm excited about snow, but not so much at that moment. The first time around, I had 30+ people coming to the concert. That went down to 16 that were planning to make it to the rescheduled time. When all was said and done, I had 10 glorious guests, and was so grateful for their gift to me...the gift of presence. It meant so much to me that they came...even more so that they braved the snow to do it! Charlie (my personal photographer) said it was the best Christmas concert he'd ever been to (although once my solo was over with, his 4 year old daughter asked if it was over after every song and at one point told her mother, "Mom, it's way past my bedtime" haha). Chris and Toni really want a cd of the song, "Worship Him" which just happened to be composed by my afore-mentioned hero. Jeni said she's finally in the mood for Christmas... The reviews were wonderful.

The last time I was in choir (fall of 2005), I quit after Christmas. But this time, they'll have to kick me out to get rid of me...and even then I'd probably still show up. Jill's a really fun director and makes being in the choir not only enjoyable, but really meaningful. She has created a family-like atmosphere where we are bonding and forming great friendships. There is some sweet fellowship there. While it's easy to get caught up in learning the music, Jill often stops and makes us look at the meaning of what we're singing. If she's said it once, she's said it a thousand times..."even the rocks are praising Him" and that's what it's ALL about for her, which is what makes being in choir so great. She gives us ample opportunity to be involved with the Worship Team. We help lead worship about once a month, which is truly a moving experience, and always has an impact on me at a deep level.

So, be on the lookout for future concerts. Maybe around Easter? I don't know, but if you want me to, I'll keep you posted about when we are singing. Oh, and if you're on facebook, you can see a video of the acappella piece we did last night. It's posted on the left of my fb page.

Saturday, January 3, 2009

New Year's Resolutions

I got to spend time with friends and family for NYE and New Year's Day. I loved every second of it. I love laughing and building memories. It made me start thinking about what my new year may look like.

Of course this is the time of year when everyone seems to look at the things in their lives they may want to take a crack at changing in the coming year. They call them New Year's Resolutions.

Did you know there are several definitions of the word resolution? I know, most people mean this definition: the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.

But I think I'm going to base my New Year's Resolutions on this definition: reduction to a simpler form; conversion. I want to get back to some basics, make some conversions....

1. I want to spend more time on spiritual matters...contemplating messages from church, digging deeper in my Bible studies, and talking with people about what God is doing in our lives.

2. I want to spend more time actually talking to and spending TIME with people face to face instead of just interacting via facebook, emailing or texting. Here are some pictures of me doing just that on the first day of the year...These are two of my older sisters, Cathy and Charlene.



I know there are lots of other things that I need to work on in my life, but really aren't those two things what life really boils down to? Those are the things that count for eternity. So I'm boiling my resolutions down to a simpler form.

What are you thinking about in your life as the new year begins? This is not a rhetorical question...I really want to know!